New Year’s resolutions and Positivity

For the last five years, I’ve made it somewhat of a tradition to think up New Year’s resolutions and while, at least around here, everyone says that nobody actually abides by their New Year’s resolutions… I usually faired quite well.

Before that, though: Content warning – There are pictures of cats in this post and if you’re scared of cats, beware! You’ve been warned!

As an example, I always managed to do “a little bit more sports” or go for a walk more often or eat healthier, etc. for the past couple of years. I knew that it was actually quite possible that I’d be able to do that, so then I paid attention to how often I actually bought fresh veggies and fresh meat instead of frozen stuff or canned food. At the same time, I’ve been eating less fast food and tried to cook a lot more often, which always worked out. 

During high school, I ended up chugging “getting over my ex” and “getting out there again” on the list as well and it would work but I feel like that’s more of a luck-based thing. I was young and stupid so I made that one of my resolutions every year when I was single and heart-broken – and it worked, I guess. I’d always end up in a relationship afterwards because obviously life goes on and there is plenty of fish in the sea. 

But even if it’s some unbelievably stupid goal like “going to Olympia this year” even though it won’t happen this year, it can be somewhat of a reassurance thing for someone as it reassures them that the next year is better than the last year. 

Resolutions are a good thing in a way as they would always give me some goal to look forward to, even if it was silly or obvious or whatever. Now, everyone talks about how 2020 wasn’t the best year but I don’t really get that since 2019 wasn’t that good either… and well, 2018 was quite stupid, too. And 2017 and 2016 were not the best years either. (Wait a minute… Trump has been president during those four years, hasn’t he? I see a pattern!) – Obviously, there are reasons for 2020 being not the best year with Covid, Wildfires, Double-Hurricanes, Trump nearly winning, Floyd, Covidiots, and all the pressure that this whole pandemic-business has been putting on us this year. But in hindsight, every other year feels a bit better than this one when in fact, you probably were looking forward to 2020 because 2019 was finally over… at least my Twitter timeline was full of tweets like that.

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Point is: I hope 2021 is going to be better than 2020 and I hope that my resolutions will give me some sort of red string to follow when I get lost in 2020. Alas, here are my personal resolutions for this year:

  • Be more positive.
  • Eat healthier and more frequently.
  • Try to stick to healthy sleep schedules and eating times.
  • Maybe do a bit more sports.
  • Focus more on my studies.
  • Call my distant relatives at least once a month. Like, at least some of them.
  • Call my parents at least twice a week.
  • Be less negative and less cynical.

So let me explain these goals to you. A couple of these goals are quite obvious like focusing more on my studies, eating healthier and more frequently, doing a bit more sports/training/work-out-stuff, calling my family on the phone… etc. – I mean, I’ve wanted to fix my sleep schedule for ages now but I haven’t been able to do that for a longer period of time as I’d every now and then end up eating too late or waking up super early and napping during the day and that kind of stuff. In the same manner, I’d often skip meals multiple times a day or just eat once every other day, resulting in me losing a lot of weight which isn’t that healthy (especially, as I can’t gain that much weight that well due to my metabolism). Alas, that’s a goal: Eat more food and make it good/healthy more often. 

As far as distant relatives go, a lot of them won’t do me any good if I talk to them too much or too often which is why I usually put it off a lot… but I need to talk to my grandparents or my uncles and aunts and great-uncles and whatever every once in a while, I guess. Obviously, if they aren’t that good for me for various reason, it’s important to not let them influence me too much. Talking to them at least once or twice in a month should be alright, though, just to keep in touch a bit. As far as my parents go, the relationship can be kind of shakey, especially when I haven’t called in a while. Alas, I need to call them at least once in a while so that they don’t get too worried and so that they don’t get upset about me not calling or whatever. I feel like a lot of people know that.

At last: Being more positive and less negative. “Duh.”

More often than not, I feel like I have to vent about stuff which makes it seem as if I was a relatively negative person. For instance, I do get upset about stuff like covidiots from time to time who endanger people even with the pandemic still being a thing. I could rant about racist cops, bigots in general, nazis, Trump, and all of those “baddies” in the world for hours… but I could also just not do that. I don’t want to be that person that only really talks about negative stuff and how many bad things there are in the world. I’d rather be someone who encourages positivity and who helps people when they need to vent or when they need someone positive instead of more negativity. I’d love it if other people didn’t have to go through as many anxiety or panic attacks as me and I’d love it if they could get more relief from seeing one of my posts or tweets once in a while. 

And obviously, I’m not gonna become one of those “chase your dream and escape the hamster wheel” guys or whatever… and I still have strong opinions on a lot of bigots… but I just wanna be less negative in general and maybe spread some more good vibes here and there. To do that, I could post more often about good things that happened to me in The Stray Sheep (if there are no posts in The Stray Sheep from now on then I guess 2021’s worse than 2020) or about some sort of accomplishment or whatever.

So I may rant or vent somewhere here and there or talk about how I’m drained or whatever but I don’t wanna be all about that… I want at least double the number of positive posts and good vibes to be spread by me! Or let’s triple or quadruple that number! Sounds good to me!

Apart from that, there are also other things that are entailed in being “more positive” like body positivity and working on how I see myself… and my mental health and being in a healthier mindset and headspace in general. Just like in all those other years, I want to be a better human and be there for others and get better at a plethora of things, so I feel like this might be a great step. Just being slightly less negative and a lot more positive. ^-^

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Oh, and less cynical for sure. My motto in life is “Das wird schon” which means something along the lines of “it’ll work out somehow”, which is rather optimistic. However, I’m a super pessimist. I’m constantly going at things in life with the worst expectations if any at all because then I can’t be disappointed. I know that I’ll never be happy with the election results or with how the weather is going to be, so I just constantly expect the AfD to have all of the votes, which would be super bad… and then they don’t have that many votes, so I’m happy about it… kinda… and the weather? Well, I’m sure it’s gonna rain all-day every day for the next 90 years. Because that’s not gonna happen, my expectations have not been met… which is good because I didn’t really have any realistic expectations in the first place. When it comes to gifts, I don’t expect any gifts… and then I get gifts and I’m happy about them. Being less pessmistic and less cynical in those instances could lead to a bit more quality in life. I will still have low expectations of movies, games and shows. I will still have no expectations of other things… and I’ll still be more than happy when my expectations aren’t met and when something better ends up happening… I just want to be less of an asshole.

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Being less of an asshole at times would be great as I can be quite sarcastic and cynical at times… and I don’t want that to happen. I want stuff to work out and hence, I want to be more patient with people and with myself. I don’t want to repeat so many of my past mistakes of constantly overthinking every single word that anyone said or any situation that has happened or could happen or whatever. At the same time, I don’t want to fall into that habbit again of forgiving toxic people again. Just recently I cut off someone who I knew for about eight years now. I don’t want to ramble too much about someone as egocentric and sexist and toxic as that guy, so I just won’t. Instead, I want to be better and focus my energy on the good things in the world and the great friends that I have and all the people I love and appreciate. I want to talk to more great people and be there for others. I want to play some games with people on my discord (btw, join if you wanna!) and play games with other bloggers and work on great blog posts or improve my stream and my blog. I want to be better than those people that bullshit others all the time. I want to be a good human being and live my life to the fullest. I don’t want to look back and regret anything. I’d rather have a great time before I die.

So, being positive and less of a cynic is gonna be great. Eating healthier and more often is gonna be great. Sleeping better and more frequently is gonna be great. Becoming a teacher eventually is gonna be great. Living a healthier life and taking care of my mental health is gonna be great. 2021 is gonna be great.

Just having those resolutions makes me already feel good about the new year. My goal of trying to be better and more positive is there and I’m working towards it and potentially it will come true or I’ll get as far as possible with it. It’s all a work in progress and I’m looking forward to that process of constantly working on things and reflecting on things I did or said or wanna do. I’m looking forward to eventually being someone that is happy with himself and that is able to lift others up as well. I’m looking forward to 2021.

Do you guys have any resolutions? What are your thoughts on them? Are they always the same or do you change them up? Do you make them come true or do they just stay in the Work In Progress phase until you write up new ones?

Let me know! And good luck with your resolutions if you have any. Happy New Year!

Cheers!

This post originated on Indiecator and was first published on there by Dan Indiecator aka MagiWasTaken.

TSS#44 – Heros in these times

Today’s Stray Sheep is different… in these quite different times. There are people out there that don’t realise how great and important it is that they are doing what they are doing. And I’d like to thank them and praise them or rather sing hymns about them (semi-ironically)… but I shouldn’t sing as I really am bad at singing. So this post is about that.

Note: This post features cat pictures from the internet. If you’re afraid of cats, don’t click on this post. If you hate cats, ignore the cats in this post. And if you’re wondering why I’m not using my own cat pictures, I’m not allowed to own a cat in my dorm-flat. I’m quite sad about that.

With Covid-19 going around, the safest course of action right now is staying home and to socially distance oneself from others to slow down the infection rate so that nurses and doctors out there can do their thing without being flooded with patients. That’s important.

Now you may be asking what my situation right now is and uh… post on that soon, I guess?

So, best course of action: Stay home. As easy as that.
But what do we do at home? Well, you can watch shows and movies, I guess… I personally have read through plenty of books as of late (books that I wouldn’t have gotten to if my university wasn’t closed at the moment, haha)… and I’ve played a lot of games.

But there are times where you need something else to do and that’s where the hero (or heroine) shows up and saves the day!

I’m talking about people that are creating content. Online. Yup.

Now that may sound like an exaggeration but as of late I’ve been feeling bored quite often. All the big events like the Twitch Con or some student parties that I would have gone to are getting cancelled and I’m rather bummed out about that… I even had to cancel my own birthday party as I didn’t want to risk that anyone gets the virus and spreads it to others.

It is kind of sad in a way. And certainly, I can’t play games all day long… and I can’t watch shows all-day long… or read books (mostly as I’m running out of books and I rarely re-read the ones in my shelf). I also can’t write all day long and with a ton of my friends not being available at the moment, there’s not much I can do. I try to mix up my activities… I clean more often and sit outside on the balcony or read different genres and watch different kinds of shows and write about different stuff in preparation of Blaugust 2020 (Please tell me that that is going to happen, Bel!). 

And to mix things up, I’m reading a lot more new blog posts lately… and I’m also catching up on everything that I’ve missed out on. And when I’m lonely while eating food, I’m watching streamers on Twitch… and when I’m going to bed, I may watch another YouTube video to get sleepy… and when I’m wondering what a movie is like, I read a review on that… and there are a lot more examples of cases where people have been there for me without really knowing about that.

I feel like these people are getting underestimated. I’m currently streaming on Twitch as well (quite often actually) and we often talk about things and how things are and we joke around and try to have some fun to distract ourselves from everything that is happening outside of our four walls.

But while I’m talking about me here and my stream, I may be a bad example as even I have times where I can’t stream or where I am not at my best or very sleepy or where I just may not be able to post for a while and hence, it’s times like these where people need more options and more content creators to watch.

And I want to praise all the good content creators out there that are a lot more experienced and a lot better at what they’re doing than I am. And this is not some kind of “fishing for compliments” kinda paragraph. I’m serious about it. I don’t really have the best kind of way with words and I’m really not the best review-blog or variety-streamer or whatever… but I’m trying my best! So just as a disclaimer: I’m not bummed out about being not as good as others… I’m just saying that other people are a bit (or a lot) better at blogging and streaming than I am… and that’s okay as it’s all a work in progress. 🙂

Distraction is great! Distraction is important!

HENCE,
I applaud every one of you who is out there bringing joy and smiles to other people, and every one of you who is there for people that feel lonely right now or who are scared.

Please keep up with what you’re doing, no matter if you’re streaming games on Twitch or doing Vlogs on YouTube or if you’re a blogger who’s writing about Humble Choice (every month) or about Fountain Pens or about IT stuff that I like to read about but still don’t understand or if you’re a GWENT blogger or if you review movies or if you have a few lovely cats and write about those or if you write about MMOs or if you write about discussions and political topics and whatnot. 

No matter what kind of content you’re creating, you’re doing great (as long as you’re not spreading fake news and as long as you’re not harming people, of course). Keep it up!

And to everyone here reading this and maybe having a bit of a rough time… Keep on keeping on! You got this! Stay safe! Stay healthy! Hang in there! And…

Cheers!